Your kink is OK, but do I have to like it?

Hello folks, first of all I have to warn you some readers may find this post a little controversial.  I do apologise if anything I write does not come across as it is meant.  This is a difficult topic to cover.

Ok, so our glorious world of kink.  As long as a kink obeys the fundamental rules (safe, sane and consensual), we have a right to practise that kink, either in private or more publicly, say on film or at a party.  But does being kinky mean we have to applaud everything we see or hear about?  I don't think we do.  Right wing politics exists and I accept that, but it does not mean I have to agree with it, so how is kink different?  In the past I have felt obliged to say that I am happy with everything I see when that blatantly is not true.  I have felt that if I did not show this opinion I would somehow be persecuted for having a closed mind, I don't, I just have things that turn me on and things that turn me right off.

Now I have my kinks, and they tend to be quite dark and can lead into prison life.  Some people, particularly those who have experienced prison in their past or present may find what I think about unacceptable.  To me that is OK, because I feel the same way about certain scenes and scenarios too.  For instance, due to personal reasons I find anything that derides my body size (for example a script written where I might be punished for being overweight) totally abhorrent but others may find this quite hot.  I also feel we must be able to give an opinion on a particular scene, be that private or public without fear of being labelled as narrow minded or displaying the dreaded 'my kink is OK, but yours is not".  This is more subtle and more along the lines of 'Your kink is OK but I don't particularly care for it'.  

Obviously we can always point out that if a scene is not cared for don't look at it, which is fine and something I practise regularly.  However, it is not always possible to achieve this, particularly at a public event or if as a professional model you are faced with a producer who wishes to cover or has filmed  something you are not happy with.  This is where it can become a little uncomfortable for all, especially if that producer is not as understanding as some might be.

We live in a democratic environment and that should be extended to scene life.  For that reason I think we should have a right to our opinions on scenes and scenarios, be they fantasies we love or those which give us the shivers, as long as our opinion is constructive and well thought out.  There is nothing to be gained by slamming anyone or their fantasies.  It hurts all those involved and judging someone negatively can have a really profound affect on someone, but we can say to people 'no thanks, that is not for me' or 'I don't want to work for you because I don't agree with the scenes you produce' and do that with a clear conscience I believe.

Another point, raised by Mr A:  We may evolve through our scene experiences and as our fantasies may change, as may our views on certain scenes.  I had forgotten this but scenes I may have played out in the past (such as serious Gorean slavery) do not interest me at all now, and seem quite a turn-off.  Likewise, there are scenes I really want to cover now that I would not have considered in the past.  One scene I am preparing for required me to lay some ghosts of the past to rest and now that they have been I feel I may go ahead safe in the knowledge this will be nothing other than fun for me (and hopefully all others involved!).  Again, we should be allowed to change our views on scene without judgement, after all we all do in other aspects of our lives don't we?

I would really appreciate your thoughts on this folks.  Thank you!