An ask...

In the last few weeks I have had several comments about my figure and look. I am also aware of other ladies getting such comments at certain scene events. Please guys it is not easy for us girls to do what we do and comments like these on a day when one's confidence is low can really get to you. Commenting on how a Lady looks is dangerous so please, if you cannot say anything generous or pleasant please don't say it at all.

I am going to have a change of look and a pamper in a couple of weeks. BUT this is because I WANT to. I am not doing it in an attempt to please others. We all know that would never work...

On my mind...

This message may not really go here but I really feel it needs saying. The last few months have seen some turbulent events on the scene and I was pleased to see how much we all came together over it all. However since then further events have been occurring that have upset me beyond belief. I have long held the scene as a place that is dear to my heart but the last couple of months have allowed me to question that choice. Now more than ever we must stick together, not fight amongst ourselves and stab each other in the back because we have not got our own way or because someone has upset us. This cannot go on. How on earth are we to represent ourselves well to the rest of the world, should they ever be exposed to us, when we are squabbling amongst ourselves and allowing more and more "scene politics" to rule our scene. Please let us bring it back to how it was; a place to play, make friends and have fun.

Some thoughts on morality

This year has made me think about morality, as in what is moral and what is not? To me it is a subjective question based on a person's personal views, probably as a result of their upbringing and what they have done and seen in adult life. I hear older members of my family give broad sweeping statements such as "the youth of today have no morals", yet if I open a History book it seems to me that ever since man has had conscious thought morality has been a battle between them! Some people or events are easily seen as immoral by most people, such as Hitler and his Holocaust and the Reign of Terror brought about by Stalin, or paedophiles to name just three. However these events are very much at the end of the spectrum, and I have met few or none who would consider them correct (including myself) But, where do we draw the line between what is or is not immoral on subjects such as a person's sexuality should they be sharing it with a consenting adult? It seems to me that people have differing opinions about this, and I would like to hear yours.

To me something immoral is doing something that may hurt another person, animal or the environment in which we live in for no good reason other than for one's own gain.

BUT, many people seem to be classing things as immoral simply because they do not understand them or do not wish to understand them. I say this since there are members of society who would call people like me depraved and immoral. But why? Do I hurt anyone? No (well not unless asked nicely and it is consenting, but certainly not lifelong damage!) does the environment become damaged by my activities on the scene? maybe, simply by my presence on Earth, but not to a significant level as a direct result of scene activities. I and others play in private when and where we can. We keep to ourselves and enjoy our time immensely, can the folks out there in the world hurling their insults at us honestly say they enjoy freedom of their sexuality? Are they sure they have not got something pent up inside them? Not understanding something is no excuse for labelling it Immoral.

I am back!!!

Hello all....yes I am back with a new blog, complete with new address and style. And just in case you are all a little confused by my colour scheme of choice, I have decided to embrace the girly girl within me and adopy the joys of pink! (I am close to having a complete pink wash now as well, but let us give it time!!!). I hope you will all enjoy this new one as much as you did the old one!